understanding what we are, part three

Teenaged Baby

Growing up as an AB/DL
Teens who are infantilists are referred to as Teen Babies (TB). Infantilist teens often struggle when they begin getting urges for infantile items, treatment, or behavior. Often, the hardest part of this struggle is telling other people about these feelings - doing so at such an important age can mean social rejection or even worse, parental rejection. Teen infantile behavior heavily varies, but is generally simpler than the AB/DL activites of adults.

While feelings of isolation are still a common part of the youths of AB/DLs, a number of communities have developed and are becoming more assessable. The oldest of them is the Diaper Pail Friends (DPF). DPF was founded in 1980 by a well known AB named Tommy, in California (USA). Before the Internet, Tommy was publishing ads in sexual periodicals to gather other AB/DL. A large number of venues on the Internet have since developed. The growth of these networks is decreasing the age at which an AB/DL finds out that he or she is not alone.

To avoid legal misunderstandings, AB/DLs under the age of consent are generally excluded from private AB/DL gatherings

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Ageplay


From Wikipedia, the free encyclopedia

Ageplay is a form of regressive roleplay in which a physical adult takes on the role of a child. This may be purely regressive (in order to re-experience childhood in a non-sexual sense), or sexual (the roleplaying of a child/adult relationship in sex, which may be a sexual fetish and is often grouped within BDSM).

Roleplaying adult/child scenarios sexually is controversial as it can arouse concern in many peoples minds, due to the sensitive nature of its subject matter. However as with other sexual fantasy it is not, by itself, necessarily a problem, and can be for some, a healthy or healing outlet, and for others like any fantasy an exploration of different roles and feelings.

Regressive ageplay
The term ageplay can be used as a standard roleplay term, but generally ageplay is a form of emotional regression. Some enjoy ageplay because they feel a need to express a childlike side, others may feel they are of a psychological age younger than their physical age, and some have dissociative child personalities (see dissociative identity disorder). Many people consider their "inner child" a very real part of them.

Ageplay may be as simple as time spent alone pursuing "childlike" activities such as playing games or watching cartoons, or as complex as an entire lifestyle built around living as a child, with a guardian, to the fullest extent possible. When in role, a regressive ageplayer will often feel and react like a real child. For some it may feel upsetting or even emotionally damaging to be treated as an adult when in their child role or headspace (a term sometimes used to indicate when someone is fully immersed in their child role).

A child personality may be referred to as a little to differentiate from the adult persona (big or bigperson). The internet provides a rich source of community for ageplayers, who usually seek a guardian or other "littles" to play with, and there are many online ageplaying communities.

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Reparenting
Most frequently, those who find long-term solace in ageplay were physically or emotionally abused or otherwise unhappy in their real childhood (see child abuse). Reliving childhood experiences, under the caring eye of a guardian of their own choosing (whom they may consider their "mommy" or " daddy", "aunt" or "uncle", etc) is a valuable healing process for many ageplayers. The term used for this is reparenting. Many ageplayers feel a need to be taken care of, or to live with rules that give them a feeling of stability. The reparenting relationship may be part-time, or as thorough as a genuine parent/child relationship, with rules, set bedtimes, childlike clothing and toys. Discipline as well as nurturing may be enforced by the guardian if such rules are broken, with the prior consent of the ageplaying adult. This may include punishments such as grounding or spanking.

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Ageplay roles
Ageplay roles range from infanthood to adolescence, and some ageplayers may identify with more than one age, taking on different ageplay roles at different times. Differing types of ageplay may be referred to in the following ways:

Infantilism : The desire to be treated as a baby or toddler. This form of ageplay appears to be far more prevalent among men, and rare among women. Infantilists may also be called adult babies or diaper lovers, although people going by these terms may not necessarily be infantilists (see infantilism). Infantilists usually wish to be entirely taken care of by a guardian as if they were a baby.
Juvenilism : Refers to ageplayers who take the role of a prepubescent child. This type of ageplay appears to be slightly more common among women than men.
Adolescentism : The ageplaying of an adolescent. Adolescent ageplay roles seem less common to regressive ageplay than the other two types, but more common to sexual ageplay.
Guardianship : An adult figure who does not roleplay a child, but rather a guardian role such as a "mommy" or "daddy" to child ageplayers. In online ageplay communities, there is often a shortage of guardians in comparison to the number of child ageplayers, and so it can be difficult for a "little" to find one. Some take on guardianship of more than one child ageplayer.
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Inner child therapy
Regressive ageplay may be linked to inner child therapy, the concept of which is to connect with one's childhood feelings in order to deal with trauma experienced in childhood. It has seen increased popularity in recent years and some areas may have ageplay groups or "inner child workshops" where adults can explore these themes in a safe environment.

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Sexual ageplay
Sexual Ageplay is a type of sexual roleplay which, because of its dominance and submission aspects, is considered a form of BDSM. It may be referred to as edgeplay because of its level of social acceptability; such roleplay may involve (fictional) incest, and a common reaction is to associate child roleplaying in a sexual situation with pedophilia. Most sexual ageplayers resent any association with pedophilia, and claim that neither party is encouraged to believe there is a real child involved, and that it involves two consenting adults with one expressing the assumed emotional vulnerability of a child.

In sexual ageplaying, the dominant generally plays the role of some form of a guardian/authority figure (teacher, doctor, parent, etc). Ageplay can also be bratplay in which the "child" is disobedient and bratty, and puts up verbal or physical resistance. (In such play, a safeword is even more important.)

Ageplay practices may include:

spanking
diapering (i.e. putting the submissive partner in diapers as though he or she were an infant)
humiliating medical procedures such as rectal temperature taking, the insertion of suppositories, the giving of enemas.
Note that some of these practices, though not often applied to children nowadays, were commonplace some decades ago, and remain common in submission and humiliation fantasy.

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Daddy's Girl fetish

The Daddy's Girl fetish is a form of sexual fetishism that uses a couple's real or imagined age difference as the foundation of their sexual roleplay. It is not only practiced by an older man and younger woman, it may also be practiced by couples who are the same age, or where the woman is older than the man, because biological age is less important than the interpersonal dynamic between them. Lesbians may also practice this type of roleplay. The "girl" role a woman plays can be any specific age up through teenage years, or can be age-indeterminate.

The lifestyle pursued by the couple (generally excluding their professional lives and contacts with others who would not approve) cast the woman as her partner's daughter. It often incorporates elements of domination and submission. These relationships can be cohabitational, but may also be practiced long-distance, as no sexual or physical contact is required. It is usually sexual roleplaying, but some couples extend it to a lifestyle and remain in role with each other at all times. They may go on outings to the playground, the movies, shopping at the mall, or out for ice cream cones. The female partner sometimes dresses in clothing appropriate to the age girl she likes to imagine being, and treated as such during roleplay.

The Daddy's girl fetish does not always involve age role play. Oftentimes, it is merely a relationship dynamic involving nurturing and care taking on the part of the parental Dominant. The parental type power is the seat of the allure in this fetish. The Daddy makes sure his "little girl" is safe, happy and healthy.

While uncommon as a fulltime lifestyle choice, a less-involved Daddy's Girl/Lolita scenario is a relatively common one-time or occasional theme in many couples' private sexual roleplay, and has been featured in many movies and TV shows, such as the recent David Cronenberg film A History of Violence.

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Diaper lover

Diaper lover" (or DL for short) is the popular term for a person who feels a strong desire to wear or use diapers without physiological necessity. This paraphilia is differentiated from infantilism in that those of the latter category are also focused with returning to babyhood in ways other than by wearing diapers. These desires are in no way related to pedophilia or infantophilia.

In many cases, the desire for these acts is of a sexual nature, in which case it is classed as a sexual fetish; but in other cases it is non-sexual, where the wearer derives a sense of comfort and safety from wearing diapers, and may not even use them.

It is also very possible that someone with this fetish may or may not want to go to a full intent of use of the diapers. Some might simply want to look at images of other people taking part in the fetish, or drawings made by artists depicting this fetish.

It can be common for a diaper lover to feel ashamed and isolated in their desires and most try to hide this desire from others. Until the rise of online services and the Internet, few persons interested in the subject had contact with any others. The CompuServe Adult Human Sexuality Forum established an "Adult Babies" section in 1987, which may have been the first online community based on sharing interests similar to this. Today, there are many websites dedicated to various facets of the fetish.